How to Talk to Your Child at Every Age (Part 1: 0 – 8 years old)

A child starts to depend on their family from the moment they were born and this bond tends to grow stronger throughout the years. But as a kid becomes more independent and starts pushing boundaries looking for their own place in the world, parents may get lost and not know how to communicate with their suddenly-grownup children. Every age is beautiful and challenging in its own way, and it’s the parents’ job to make the most of it.

So we’d like to share some tips that will help parents to successfully communicate with their kid at any age.

0-2 years old: Build an emotional connection and help them discover the world.

Children at this age are growing and developing new skills very quickly, so they need their parents to help them adapt to the world. They can communicate their needs in a very limited way: experts say that children can usually use about 50 words by the age of 2 and use crying as their main means of communication.

Children at this age crave physical contact since it calms them down and facilitates their development. They need to develop their physical abilities through interaction with other people, playing games, and touching.

What parents should do:

• At this point in their life, a child needs the undivided attention of their parents, so they can develop physically, emotionally, and socially. Parents should talk to their children as much as possible and comment on their actions, so a child can improve their verbal skills.
• Children copy the behavior of the people around them and may mimic their emotions. It’s essential to respond to the signals your child is sending you and be consistent with your response, so a child can build a connection between their actions and the reactions of other people.
• Keep in mind, that children can easily feel the mood of their parents and copy So it’s better to try to stay calm, positive, and friendly. It’ll help the child feel safe and promote your emotional connection with them.

3-5 years old: Encourage their curiosity and let them learn things about themselves.

Preschoolers are naturally very curious and tend to bombard you with millions of questions about the world. They are just starting to learn how to communicate with other people verbally and may still have problems with understanding how they should interact with people.

It may be difficult for them to focus on future events and they rarely think ahead. They may have problems focusing on one task for a long time and building a connection between different events. Children at this age may also confuse their emotions and not really know how to manage them.

What parents should do:

• Find some time to answer all the questions your child may have for you and listen to what they have to say. If you get distracted, the child will notice it and, for them, it may mean that while you’re present physically, you’ve abandoned them mentally.
• Don’t expect too much from your kid when it comes to a conversation and you need to help them navigate the world. For example, when you ask your child’s opinion on something, give them a limited choice so they don’t have to come up with an answer on their own.
• Teach your child that it’s fine to feel different kinds of emotions and that anger or frustration don’t make you a bad person. But it’s important to differentiate these feelings and learn how to manage them.

6-8 years old: Appreciate their early signs of independence and be prepared to answer their first “adult” questions.

At this age, children usually start going to school and, for the first time in their life, they get to spend a lot of time without their parents, interacting with their peers. They start to feel more independent and explore their own ideas and personality traits.

But the relationships inside the family are still the most important ones for the child. Kids at this age may be very sensitive to criticism and easily embarrassed.

What parents should do:

• Encourage your kids to explore their passions and focus on their achievements, rather than criticizing them for doing something wrong.
• Acknowledge their independence and don’t actlike you always know better. Be ready for a compromise and always apologize if you were wrong.
• Discuss ideas and concepts that are important for your child. Ask them open questions and listen to what they have to say to you.

(To be continued)